Quoting Mandy Hale, ‘Until you get comfortable with being alone, you will never know if you are choosing someone out of love or loneliness’
The
most powerful tip. Learn to be comfortable being alone. It no doubt is
equivalent to scaling a mountain peak, but it is equally rewarding. Sink
in your company. Drown in the sea of your essence. Know yourself.
Inside out. Enjoy being with yourself. Understand your trivial and
deepest fears. Love your imperfections. Swim across the ocean that is
you. Feel every nook and corner of your heart. Be amazed. Do it till the
very fear of loneliness that haunts you day in and day out, melts
completely like the snow in the presence of the sun.
And
why would you do this? Because until you reach this amazing state, you
will never know if you truly love someone or are using them as a crutch
or a walking stick for your loneliness. It goes true for every relation
in your life. Parents, siblings, friends, relatives, colleagues or
lovers. We tend to see our reflection in these people and cling to them
in the hope that they will keep us away from our loneliness. And when
they leave, you become all the more lonely, all the more depressed. But
is that fair? To you or the one you love?
This
powerful tip is not so that you stay away from relationships and shy
away from people all your life. This tip is so that you always make more
meaningful, more deeper and more loving relationships wherever you go.
After all, the essence of a good relationship is that you do not need
the person. You just love them. For whoever they are.
credit : Supriya-Rao