You don't got to have of these things, but you better have most of them. family, friends, career, educational goals, plans for time outside of labor attention to your mental and physical health etc.
And that's what life is about and if you don't have any of those things well then all you've got left is misery and suffering so that's a bad deal for you but once you've set up that goal structure let’s say and that's really- in many ways, that's what you ought to be doing at university that's exactly what you ought to be doing is trying to work out who it's you're trying to be and you aim at that then you employ everything you've learned as a way of building that person who you would like to be and that I really mean want to be I don't mean should be albeit those things are getting to overlap and it is vital to differentiate between those because that's partly and this is often backtrack to the micro routine analysis so while you are going to undertake to form yourself more industrious, okay 1 specify your goals, because how are you getting to hit something if you do not know what it's that may not getting to happen and sometimes people won’t specify their goals too because they don't wish to specify conditions for failure so if you retain yourself all vague and foggy which is real easy because that's just a matter of not doing as well then you don't know when you fail and people might say well I don't want to know when I fail because that's painful so I’ll keep myself blind about when I fail that's fine except you'll fail all the time then you just won’t know it until you failed so badly that you're done and that can easily happen by the time you're 40 so, I would recommend that you don't let that happen so that's willful blindness you could've known but you chose not to. okay so once you get your goal structure found out you think that okay if I buy half this life seems like which may be worth living despite the very fact that it's going to be. you know anxiety provoking and threatening and there's going to be some suffering and loss involved and all of that. obviously the goal is to possess a vision for your life such all things considered that justifies your effort, then what does one do ?
Then you turn down to the micro routine it’s like okay this is what I’m aiming for how does that instantiate itself day to day, week to week, month to month and that is where something sort of a schedule are often unbelievably useful, Google calendar make a damn schedule, and stick with it okay so what's the rule with a schedule it’s not a bloody prison, that's the first thing that people do wrong, I don't like to follow a schedule what kind of schedule are you setting up? well.. I even have to try to to this then I even have to try to to this then I just go play some video games because who wants to try to to of these things that I have to do it's like WRONG.
Set the damn schedule up in order that you've got the day you would like that is the trick, it’s like okay I’ve got tomorrow if i used to be getting to set it up so it's the best possible day I could have, what would it look like then you schedule that, and obviously there's a bit of responsibility that's going to go along with that because if you have any sense one of the things you're going to insist upon is that at the end of the day you're not in worse shape than you were at the start of the day.